With the recent push in Bullying Prevention in public schools many parents have turned to martial artists for solutions. While martial artist fill this need I think it’s important to discuss which arts I feel are most beneficial to children. Besides being a Full Instructor in JKD/Filipino Martial Arts, a purple belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, having 5 years of Aikido training, and an additional 12 years of training in Japanese shoot wrestling I am also a child/adolescent clinical therapist. I have a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology and an instructor in Nonviolent Crisis Prevention Intervention under the Crisis Prevention Institute. I work with students who have social, emotional, and behavioral issues. My experience in developmental psychology, violent behavior, de-escalation, and martial arts training provide me with a strong conceptual framework in adapting specific martial arts systems to needs and behavior of children.
While bullying is not the focus of this article I would like to state that martial arts by itself does not provide the skills needed for kids that experience bullying. A strong set of social skills (awareness, using humor, self advocacy, prevention, etc.) are much more effective than any physical intervention and have been backed by evidence and research. Martial arts can provide three elements for a child; confidence, community support, and self protection as a last resort. Confidence coming from self accomplishments and not the abilty to fight. Community from adults and other peers showing support and care. Self protection from the physical aspects of training.
With so many martial art programs to choose from today we are overwhelmed with advertisements and choices to make. Here are my recommendations based on my research, experience, and personal preferences for my own children.
Karate / Tae Kwon Do / Kung Fu / Wing Chun (Traditional Arts)
Pros: Learning forms and building on them is based on self perfection. Small goals with lots of work effort provides accomplishments that elicit positive self esteem. Failure is seen as practice which builds resiliency in children. Rank systems provide a competition with ones self which strives for constant improvement. Wearing a uniforms makes everyone “uniform,” providing a sense of equality and community. The non physical aspects and philosophies of these arts have powerful meanings in daily life that can be transformative and life balancing. (Meditation, viewing gentleness as power, self reflection, enemy as misguided, etc.)
Cons: Techniques are based on punching and kicking which is violent for children. Although these arts may have beneficial philosophies the nonverbal aspects of the art are usually not emphasized as much as the physical. These arts may teach the use of fighting as a last resort but many children’s developing brains have not yet formed the complex ability to discern between concrete thoughts and abstract reasoning, making it more likely that they will act upon the primal instincts of punching and kicking than the moral instincts of walking away from a fight. All human being specifically children will do what they rehearse most. If you practice striking in a conflict situation then that behavior is what is reinforced during a real conflict. These arts often use a more authoritative approach to teaching rather than a collaborative approach which increases cognitive rigidity and reduced independence and self inquiry.
Recommendation: While their are benefits to having children participate in these arts I would not recommend them for children under 12 years old. Exceptions can be made if the instructor of the art is unconventional and is aware of the conditions that I have addressed. (ex. Practicing the verbal skills needed in a confrontation rather than emphasizing the techniques, focus on being a better person, etc.)
Wrestling / Brazilian JiuJitsu / Judo (Grappling Arts)
Pros: Children naturally gravitate towards grappling. A primal instinct for children to role around, jump, and play with parents is an essential part of bonding. This provides children with a natural template for learning wrestling. Wrestling, BJJ, and Judo (grappling arts) provide a system of self defense that is less violent than traditional arts. There is no striking. Grappling arts employ off balancing and holding techniques that are much safer for both individuals involved. While their is no focus on esoteric philosophies, grappling arts do push fairness and code of sportsmanship. Grappling art techniques work in real scenarios and that effectiveness comes through with real action. Real action or hard work builds accomplishments which in turn increases self esteem in children. Grappling arts have no forms. It forces children to develop their own inner game plan which helps children develop internal planning and formal thought. Failures are seen as mistakes but recoverable mistakes which develops resiliency in children.
Cons: Some forms of wrestling (ex. Greco Roman) and Judo involve severe throws and slams. This can be very dangerous to a child’s fragile bone structure and developing brain. Brazilian JiuJitsu focuses on submissions and the hyper-extension of a child’s small joints is very dangerous. Also BJJ has chokes which leads to asphyxiation or the inability for oxygen to reach the brain.
Recommendation: Given the physical conflict situation in a child’s world, where a child has to use some physical force to defend themselves, wrestling would be a highly recommended art to apply. A child can take down another child, hold the child in a defensive position, and call for help while maintaining control. All this while not extensively hurting their opponent, being emotionally under control, and gaining a sense of esteem for defending oneself because the techniques taught in grappling are proven in matches. It has been my experience that practioners of grappling arts develop and even display of emotion (not anger and not gloating) during a physical conflict situation. The conflict is seen more as a familiar obstacle to be overcome until they are in the dominant position. Even smaller children can defend themselves effectively against a bigger child who has no grappling experience. Most of the grappling arts can be “toned down” to de-emphasize hypertension of the limbs and and take downs that art less damaging to the opponent, all this while still maintaining the arts effectiveness.
Capoeira
Pros: Capoeira is fantastic exercise for children. Capoeira is based on dancing movement, music, and having fun. It develops a child’s balance, understanding of body movements, and self expression. Capoeira is done in a group and sparring is refered to as “play.” There is a great sense of community and belonging which is important in a child’s development. Capoeira is deeply rooted in Brazilian culture and much can be learned about the culture through participation in the art.
Cons: During sparring sessions which is really “mimicked” sparring Capoeira movements are often wild and unpredictable which could lead to serious injury. While Capoeira may be fun it’s effectiveness as a martial art it is questionable. Unrealistic techniques provide false hope for real self defense.
Recommendation: I see Capoeria more as a club than a martial art. If your looking for something fun for your child to participate in while learning a cool skill, Capoeria is a nice alternative to gymnastics, dance, or sports. If your looking for self defense look somewhere else.
Aikido
Pros: Aikido is a “gentle” art. It’s philosophy is deep seated in being kind and seeing the world as a place that we “all” live in. Exposing children to philosophies that teach understanding in the face of conflict develops well balanced youth. Aikido teaches to go with the force and to see enemies as misguided.
Cons: Aikido techniques focus on locks and throws which can be damaging to small, developing, ligaments, muscles, and bones. Children will find that aikido techniques are very difficult to utilize in self defense situations because there is a high level of “cooperation” when practicing them. The techniques provide a false sense of security. During practice a child is able to throw a full grown adult with ease but unable to accomplish anything close to this in reality.
Recommendation: Aikido is great for children because it practices nonviolence and peace. The art goes out if the way to teach how not to hurt your attacker. I would recommend Aikido to older school aged children who are not in great need for “realistic” self defense. It’s a beautiful art to learn.
Fencing
Pros: Fencing is an art highly based on instinct and intelligence. It is safe, nonviolent compared to other arts, fun, and strategic. Engaging body and mind is highly beneficial to children. Children learn best through “doing” while cognitively processing the activity they are engaging in. Fencing teaches sportsmanship, pre-planning, and fairness. Fencing encourages self esteem, goal development, and success based on effort.
Cons: Fencing isn’t considered “self defense,” although the principles can be used in self defense (forward shuffle, interception, poste – raposte, etc.)
Recommendation: Fencing is a really great art to teach children. The combination of sportsmanship, strategic skill, and intellectual engagement is highly beneficial to children. In addition it’s really fun!
MMA / Boxing / Kickboxing / Muay Thai / Jeet Kune Do / Filipino Martial Arts, Rapid Assault Tactics, Krav Maga, Reality Based Systems
* I would not recommend these arts for any child under 13.
Personally this video makes me sick!
If you agree or disagree with me I would love to hear your opinion and debate about it with you. Please let me hear from you. Thanks.
Instructor Chris
Smarter Self Defense
www.SmarterSelfDefense.com







